There is a general misunderstanding that you are supposed to know how to do everything on your own. This is an especially pervasive belief among helpers and healers.

Helpers and healers are notoriously bad about being able to receive. Giving – they’re all over that. Nurturing – no one better. But being able to ask for help, let alone accept a kindness – that’s a challenge.

Maybe it would help to know that by asking for help you are almost certain to learn a something new and that will help your clients. You expand your knowledge base when you ask for help. You build community. You allow yourself to feel uplifted and energized – and that’s good for everyone in your life.

A strong sense of community emerges and we’re starting to see how collaborative friendships (doesn’t this sound better than strategic alliances?) help everyone.

When you’re uncertain of your next step, consider reaching out to your community to ask for feedback, advice, ideas and suggestions. Consider asking for help. If you’re a helper or healer you may be shocked at the overwhelming response you get after years of uplifting others.

Let me know how it works out!

I talk with a lot of professionals who are struggling with finding clients – especially with this recession that just seems to be dragging on and on and on. They want more training, more ideas, more consulting – but with few clients coming in, they don’t have much of an education budget for themselves.

The real bear is that this actually is a great time to jump in and get some extra training because you have the time. The problem – the money. Training courses, workshops and retreats can be pretty pricey.

Instead of doing a search online for training, I suggest you check out what’s available in and around your town. It’s a great way to make friends and get involved in your community which in turn can be very good for your business.

The Small Business Administration is a great place to start. They offer classes, books and workshops that can really help you get things moving again. Check online to see if there is a SBA chapter near you.

You might also visit your local Chamber of Commerce to see if it’s a good fit for you. Tell them what you’re looking for and ask what they have that might help you reach your goals. Many chambers have mentoring available, leads groups, business events and even classes to help you with your business.

The library is probably the most under-utilized resource out there. Stop by, have a chat with the librarian and ask about books but also ask if they have ideas of other places in the community where you could find great ideas and help.

Your local Community College and Community Recreation Center both may have some amazing classes on business development, marketing and advertising.

And it doesn’t hurt to get out into the world and just do your life. Do the things you love to do, meet people and tell them what you do. It’s a great way to get a referral based business off the ground.

At times, hiring a consultant to help you is a great idea. It can help you get a laser-focus on your business, provide you with immediate answers to specific questions and move you forward – often at quantum speed.

But in the mean-time, there are resources you can access that can help you connect with your community while growing your business.

Enjoy the journey!